Restriction in a New Romantic Relationship

Main Menu

Events & Classes

Main Menu


Become a Member

Find more wisdom and practices to elevate your self, your life and the people around you. From weekly articles and videos to live-streamed and in-Centre classes and events, there is a membership plan for everyone.

View Membership Plans
Featured Membership:
Onehouse Community
  • Benefits include:
  • All live-streamed classes
  • All in-Centre classes*
  • 10% discount in our bookstores*
  • And much more...
  • Join Today
  • *At participating locations. Restrictions apply.
Main Menu


Free Consultation With a Teacher

Book a free consultation with a Kabbalah Centre teacher.

Our dedicated instructors are here to help you navigate your spiritual journey, so that you may seize your destiny and achieve your goals.

Request a Consultation

Kabbalistic Astrology Chart Reading

Kabbalistic Astrology has helped countless souls gain profound insights into their personal spiritual paths.

A natal chart reading connects you with your true purpose in life, helping you navigate the ups and downs of life so that you may seize the reins of your destiny and achieve your goals.

And now you can get a Kabbalistic Astrology chart reading online!

Book a Chart Reading

Restriction in a New Romantic Relationship

Chaim Solomon
July 30, 2015


I am new to Kabbalah and my friend, who inspired me to learn the teachings, told me that in new romantic relationships there is a “waiting period” before intimacy should occur. What are the kabbalistic “rules?” And how should we use restriction in a relationship so we can continue to grow? ~JA


One of the foundational teachings of Kabbalah is that when a person takes an action based on desire for immediate gratification, it feels good in the moment. But that feeling is only temporary. Subsequently, the person will feel a greater lack of fulfillment than they started with before the action.

The power of restriction, which means to pause before acting upon a feeling or desire, is to give oneself real free will—the ability to truly see the intention behind the action. That is, is it for oneself alone (immediate and temporary fulfillment) or is it for the sake of sharing, empowering the other person to connect, or to reveal some aspect of the Light of the Creator within them (long lasting fulfillment)?

Kabbalistically, intimacy is a very powerful action. It involves the soul and soul’s energy of both people. It is NOT just a physical act. Kabbalah teaches that every physical act comes from a metaphysical force in the person and creates spiritual/metaphysical consequences for the person. Therefore, in the majority of relationships, once intimacy starts, people become “blind” to who the other person “really” is, how they behave, and whether or not they are a match.

Think back to your own past relationships. Did you ever find yourself staying in a relationship longer than you “should” have—even when there were red flags—just because you wanted the intimacy aspect of the relationship? Did you ever find yourself overly heartbroken at the end of a relationship because you had given yourself into intimacy?

There is no specified “waiting period.” The concept is to apply restriction before getting involved intimately. This allows you to see the other person more clearly and objectively, and to know if they are someone that you really want to be involved with, someone that you want to be with long term.