Weeks 1–2

Question: Are you truly vulnerable with your friends? Do you allow yourself to be fully seen, and do you create a safe space for your friends to be fully seen? How can you expand on this vulnerability in your friendships?

Thought Into Action: For the next week or two, focus on the three key factors of a true friendship mentioned in the lesson: benevolence, concordance, and a sincere desire to share. Pay attention to your friendships and notice how these factors show up. Are any of these factors lacking? Do you see any patterns with these factors? Out of the three factors, try to identify which one requires more effort from you and commit to putting energy into building this factor.

Weeks 3–4

Question: What is something external you want to confront in your life right now (or recently)? If you shift your focus to your internal world, what may you need to confront in yourself first?

Thought Into Action: For the next week or two, observe the ways in which your Opponent works to keep you in a victim movie when a potential confrontation arises. For instance, does the Opponent use “right and wrong,” blame, expectations, or anxiety? Just notice the Opponents game without judgment and practice pushing back on the Opponent. Observe how your thoughts and feelings around confrontations, big and small, shift when your Opponent is not running the show.

Weeks 5–6

Question: Is there anyone in your life right now you’ve written off maybe too quickly– decided they’re too different from you, not a good person, not worth investing time in, etc.? What would it take for you to give this person a true chance at friendship? What would extending yourself beyond your comfort zone look like?

Thought Into Action: For the next week or two, pay attention to the friends or friend you judge most (and don’t judge yourself for judging!). Simply observe your judgment, and every time it comes up, challenge yourself to switch into the mode of curiosity. Observe what changes you experience in yourself and with this person when you move from judgment to curiosity. Any surprises?

Weeks 7–8

Question: Think about the different relationships you have right now – romantic, familial, friendships, coworkers, etc. Who is someone you have a relationship with but don’t fully respect or believe in? How is this affecting the relationship? How can you build more respect and a true belief in the person in order to become more unified?

Thought Into Action: For the next week or two, practice truly being happy for others' success and good fortune. Take the time to celebrate other people’s happiness with the intention of becoming more unified. Notice the relationship between your ability to be happy for others and the unity you feel with them.

Weeks 9–10

Question: What is something or someone you identify in your life right now as “bad”? Based on what you learned in this class, how can you shift your perspective to look at this person, place, situation etc. as simply underdeveloped, unripe fruit? When you adopt this new perspective, how do you feel?

Thought Into Action: For the next week or two, every time you judge something as having no purpose, or no positive purpose, pause. Catch yourself. Remind yourself, according to Kabbalah, everything in existence has been created with purpose. Challenge yourself to look longer and harder, search deeper for a concealed purpose. Notice how this effort to find purpose shifts your thoughts and feelings about whatever person, place, situation, etc. you are dealing with.

Weeks 11–12

Question: Download the lesson handout on the lesson page and answer all questions.

Thought Into Action: For the next week, focus on transforming the one quality you identified is most awakened in you by the people you surround yourself with. For instance, if you have discovered it’s a pattern that you often feel insecure around your friends and family, dig deeper into this insecurity. What is the negative limiting belief system or system(s) driving this insecurity? “I need to be perfect in order to be worthy of love” ... “If I don’t get approval from the people I love, I will die”...