Weeks 1–2

Question: What does it mean for you to inject more excitement into your relationship, be it with your significant other or another person you are in a close relationship with (i.e change up an aspect of your routine, try something new, commit to working on a something together…etc)?

Thought Into Action: For the next week, find a creative way to express your appreciation for the person you focused on above (i.e – write a sincere card, buy a gift for no reason, surprise them…etc).

Weeks 3–4

Question: Where are you currently experiencing conflict in your relationship with yourself (i.e financial status, relationship status, body image, etc)? What negative thoughts or belief systems does your opponent tell you about yourself in this area?

Thought Into Action: For the next week, in the area of your life that you chose above, write down three positive affirmations about yourself and review these affirmations daily for a week (example- financial status – “I am capable of creating the success I desire” … “There is enough abundance for all” … “I give myself permission to grow and prosper” … etc.)

Weeks 5–6

Question: Of the four horsemen Monica mentioned (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stone walling), which one do you find yourself falling into the most in your relationship with your significant other or any another close relationship in your life. What are the negative, ego-based thoughts going through your head when you fall into this habit?

Thought Into Action: For the next week, focus on the habit you chose above and every time it shows up, choose one soul-based thought to actively meditate on in your consciousness. For example, if your habit is defensiveness, you can meditate on or say aloud the affirmation: “I am not under attack and I do not need to attack, when I communicate my feelings peacefully everyone wins.”

Weeks 7–8

Question: In your relationship with your significant other, or another close relationship, when, how, and why do you act like a destroyer? What is the belief system behind your destroyer consciousness? For example, when your partner disappoints you, you throw all the good things they’ve done out the window, hyper focus on their negativity and criticize them heavily for it. The belief system behind this could be – “My partner only listens to me and changes when I get angry.”

Thought Into Action: For the next week, in the relationship area you focused on above, practice implementing a new soul-based belief system every time your limited belief system surfaces this week. For example, “Anger feels good for my ego, but my soul and my partner respond only to love.”

Weeks 9–10

Question: How has your definition of closeness shifted as a result of this class?

Thought Into Action: For the next week, with your significant other or another person you have a close relationship with, practice your new definition of closeness. For instance, maybe you learned that closeness involves a new level of honesty. Practice expressing your true feelings especially in the moments you are afraid.

Weeks 11–12

Question: When do you find it hard to celebrate the successes of your significant other, or anyone else you are close to? For instance, when things aren’t going well for you, when you think it’s undeserved, when you’re in a bad mood, etc…

Thought Into Action: Thought Into Action: For the next week, every time something good happens to your significant other or another individual you are close to, practice separating their life from yours. Practice observing, embracing, and relishing in the joy of their good fortune, without relating it back to yourself or your life.